As Christians we are called to grow in maturity in our faith – something which doesn’t happen by accident. You can’t osmose you way to looking like Jesus.
So what to do? I’m going to suggest that a great step is to invite someone else to do it with you. You decide you want to grow in your faith, you take responsibility for your own discipleship, and you make sure you aren’t trying to do it alone.
Accountability can be a weighted word. But that doesn’t change the fact that sometimes we need someone we trust to give us a nudge in the right direction. Someone to pray with. Someone to encourage us to pray ourselves.
This is a chance to take time out of the busyness of the day-to-day to share honestly about your life, your faith and your relationship with God, with someone else standing alongside you, running the race with you. This is church family on the smallest scale: gathered in His name, seeking after His heart.
If meeting up with someone regularly with this in mind is something you already do, maybe take an opportunity to take a fresh look at how you spend your time together, and take stock of how it has helped you. Praise God for where it has been a blessing to you, and ask for guidance on what might needs attention going forward, or a particular area of your character where you should seek to grow.
If this is something you don’t do at the moment or maybe it’s a completely new concept to you: I encourage you to be shameless un-British in making it happen.
As you think through what this might look like for you, here are some helpful questions to ask:
- Who are you going to meet with? Are you looking for someone at a similar stage so you can encourage and support one another? Or, a mentor to guide you on the way?
- What are you going to do together? Read the Bible, read another Christian book, or just discuss what is challenging you as time goes on?
- Most importantly: why? Fundamentally, it’s hard to grow and to change if we don’t actually want to. Maybe that’s challenge #1.